Bad diet? be honest with yourself who`s to blame

Bad diet? Today`s blog takes another look at many client`s inability to follow a healthy diet, but worse than that refusing to accept responsibility for doing so.

Quite often as a trainer, you will be the one that clients blame for not getting results, especially it seems regarding weight loss. Nothing to do with the fact they don’t want to be accountable for what they’re putting into their mouths of course! No, that would be too simple.

Any excuse is better than facing the truth, such as they believe you aren’t training them correctly. Funny thing is, if they know better than you why are they paying you or any trainer good money to get in shape? Surely, they could do it themselves and save a ton of money. After all, this isn’t a cheap service so why waste money on something you aren’t going to take seriously?

Get real people! You are paying a personal trainer to help you, but you won’t allow yourself to be helped by constantly eating bad food, you don’t have to be a brain surgeon to figure that one out!

My client with this issue

One such issue arose when I trained Susan, she had contacted me wanting to lose weight but claiming she’d had 6 trainers over the last year but never got any results from any of them, if anything she`d gained weight!

Now that’s either some seriously bad trainers, or a client that won’t do their part out of the gym by controlling what they’re eating, with the chances of hiring 6 bad trainers back to back being very remote, I quickly figured out which reason it was, and equally as quickly figured she wasn’t going to be an easy client to work with.

She was pleasant enough, but obviously had a love of unhealthy food. We worked out early Monday morning, and she would be telling me of how her weekend consisted of basically drinking beer and eating crappy food! Now, I warned her don’t expect results from this if you’re going to keep eating and drinking in that manner, she said she understood. I wasn’t convinced in the slightest.

All was going well, she seemed to enjoy the workouts but when she stepped on the scales it was time for a reality check, she`d gained 5lb since the last weigh in 2 weeks before. Then of course it’s time to blame the trainer “I think you’re making me lift weights that are too heavy, I told you I didn’t want to bulk up! We need to change the training program.” she said like she’s suddenly become an expert in personal training.

One thing I absolutely will not tolerate is having someone with no experience telling me I’m doing my job wrong! Delicate situation to handle though, on one hand I want to tell her she’s stupid and to get lost! On the other hand, this is a business so need to keep the money coming in. So, I very politely reminded her of what she`d been telling me regarding what she`d been eating, and it wasn’t healthy food by any means. Also explained to her to bulk someone up isn’t as easy as she’s thinking it was, that would require a very different training program than the one she was doing with me.

This is going nowhere!

It became a regular battle every time she weighed in, unable to accept responsibility herself she would blame me for not training her correctly, and also reminding me of the thousands of dollars she had invested in my service.

Realizing the sessions were over I figured it’s time to put her in her place once and for all! I reminded her of the diet she was supposed to be on, but instead chose to eat crap food! As for the thousands of dollars, I told her she may as well have donated it to McDonalds! Which is basically what she did anyway.

She quit claiming she was going to find another trainer, one who knew what they were doing! Good luck on that. It was a relief when she walked out of the gym for the last time. So, I guess I became the 7th bad trainer Susan had hired in a year. Oh well, I can live with that!

Helpful advice

You cannot expect to change all of your eating habits overnight and the changes to last. Instead, making small changes, such as cutting out soda, can help you lose up to 20 pounds in 6 months!

Do not make your new diet too strict and restrictive. Having a treat every once in a while, is okay! You don’t want to make yourself unhappy or you won’t commit to the new changes. For example, if your favorite treat is ice cream, eat a reasonable helping one or two nights a week to reward yourself for sticking with your new changes.

Do not expect to lose the weight immediately. It took time to put it on, and it will take time for it to come off.

Many people say that they will start their diet on a Monday or after the holidays. That is procrastination. If it is really important to you, you would start it in the present time!

Making one poor choice will not ruin your entire effort. For example, if you eat a burrito for lunch, that doesn’t mean that you have ruined all of your choices for the rest of the day. Stay strong and make smart decisions for the rest of your selections! Your goal should be to make good choices, not flawless ones.

Do not set to lose an unreasonable amount of weight in a short period of time. This will only end up frustrating you if you do not see results within the timeframe of your tight schedule.

Diets deprive us of certain nutrients, therefore we end up binge eating.

Changing eating habits can cause headaches, fatigue, mental fog, confusion, and irritability. Many of this is caused by not eating enough calories or carbs. It can also cause you to go crazy and binge eat when you allow yourself food.

Being hungry does not mean that you are losing weight. Your goal should be to find foods that make you feel fuller longer such as fiber, protein and good fats.

Do not skip meals! This will cause you to eat even more because you will be famished!

Going from one diet to another or losing weight quickly on a diet without any end goal is not the correct way to do it.

Going on a crash diet will help you lose weight initially, but after you reach your weight loss goal, the pounds will come back. Think about it. If you return to the habits that you had before your diet, you are bound to return to the same weight.

Your body needs a steady intake of glucose to increase your metabolism and feed your brain and body with energy. Crash diets rob your body of this glucose. This is very unhealthy and dangerous for you!

Make sure that you have adequate protein during the day, especially in the morning. Also, try not to eat 2 hours before you go to bed at night.

There are new diets every day, so dieters get distracted with the shiny end goals these diets promise to deliver.

Diets have claims that they will make you lose a lot of weight in a short period of time. People will try any diet to see if it works for them. Examples are the low carb diet, the grapefruit diet, and the cabbage soup diet (there are too many to mention!).

In the beginning, you may lose weight, but once the diet period is over, the weight will come back. If it is not a lifestyle, it will not stick. Find one program which will work for you and stick by it.

Old fashioned healthy eating and exercise is the only way that will prove to be a long-term change that will remain. Learning good portion control is key. Studies show that people who use good portion control lose more weight than those that do not.

Many new diets have pills or shakes that are recommended along with your good eating habits. These are temporary fixes and they cannot be sustained for a long time. Once they are stopped, the weight loss will slow down or halt and it is very likely that the pounds will come back.


The bottom line is there’s no magic for pill for weight loss, good old exercise and diet is the key, so don’t blame someone else for eating junk, such as your trainer, they’re there to help you, but if you don’t follow their advice who is really to blame? Also don’t confuse the word diet with starving yourself, that’s not what it`s about at all, moderation is the key.

Author: Nigel Taylor

I`m Nigel Taylor – originally from England – owner of The Backyard Gym in Round Rock Texas. We specialize in personal training, kickboxing cardio and self-defense. With over 25 years experience as a personal trainer, I know what works! From weight loss to bulking up to toning up, I can help you get your desired look and achieve your fitness goals. I can also offer you the privacy of a 100% private personal training studio in which to enjoy and get the most out of your workouts.