Tips for Escaping or Fighting Back. How do you escape, fight, and survive? The reality is an attack really can happen to you, and it can happen anywhere at any time! Denial won’t get you far into defending yourself when the need arises. So, your first step is to actually understand this could really be a possibility.
Have an escape plan
Wherever you are or wherever you are going, know the layout of the place and visualize an escape route. Thinking this way is not being paranoid, it’s being cautious.
If you’re at home, knowing where your power switch is, and knowing your way in the dark, can give you an advantage over intruders.
If you’re outside, knowing the layout of the town – where the sketchy areas are, where populated streets and venues are – can help you to both prevent and escape an encounter with an attacker.
If you’re at work, knowing the structure of the building can give you an idea where to flee.
Basically, wherever you are, make sure you know the area or building. Just in case something happens, you will have a better idea of how to stay safe. The last thing you want is to be clueless if something does happen, you might not have time to think and respond.
Train your body
You don’t have to have the strength and physique of a bodybuilder to defend yourself, but it helps to be in relatively good shape.
After all, how can you rely on yourself if you’re not physically fit? Could you run? Could you kick them? Could you last a little bit in a fight?
Remember, you don’t have to win the fight against an attacker. You just need to be able to survive it. People who fight back may have more chance of injury, but they have better chances of survival.
You might get a black eye or a broken arm, but if you don’t get raped for example, the black eye and the broken arm is going to heal far quicker than the trauma of being raped.
React quickly to danger
Response time is critical. Since the offender is counting on a surprise ambush to carry out his crime, you need to use the same element of surprise to escape or counterattack.
This could mean running toward lights and people, or it could mean screaming or making noise with whatever you have to get other people’s attention.
If you’re grabbed by the wrist, try to juggle your hand so that you can pull it away in the area where the attacker’s fingers can open up. If escaping is not an option, quick and efficient self-defense knowledge is key to survival.
If you’re just flailing about, you may be ineffectively exerting energy, and that will cause you to question what you’re doing.
Striking only at vital targets, which are areas of the body where you can inflict the most pain and damage. This will likely make it easier to disable the offender and get away.
Some vital targets include the top center of the skull, eyes, temples, ears, windpipe, knees, insteps, base of skull, and spine.
This is not a time for being reserved, your life may be in danger, you must act accordingly. Hit fast and hit hard!
Ways to Avoid Danger
The best self-defense strategies and techniques work equally well for men and women, but let’s face it: Women really need them because they’re assaulted more often than men.
Statistics indicate that one in three women will be the victim of some type of violent attack in her lifetime. Women also endure more incidents of verbal and sexual harassment.
Although most women’s self-defense courses focus on skills for quickly and efficiently destroying an attacker, self-defense training also should include methods for preventing a confrontation from turning physical in the first place.
Learning how to steer away from a threat may not sound as exciting as ripping out an attacker’s heart, but as they say in every beginner’s class, evading an attack is almost always superior to blocking an attack.
Be aware of your surroundings
No matter how safe you think a neighborhood might be, it’s still not a good idea to leave the front door open, your valuables in the car, your purse on top of your office desk, or to flaunt all of your expensive jewelry and other belongings.
These actions simply provide temptation and opportunity for offenders, also avoid against walking through dark, isolated alleys, fields or parking lots.
Bad things happen in “safe” areas all the time. In fact, would-be attackers lurk around places where they can have the opportunity to catch people off guard and remain anonymous.
Pay attention to the people around you
This advice is part of both listening to your instincts and being aware of your surroundings.
You can often sense peoples’ intentions just by the way they look at you. Heed warning signs even when you are with people you know and trust.
The eyes, it is said, are the windows to the soul. Often, the way in which a hostile person looks at you can be a predictor of what his plans are for you.
Cops, soldiers, and mental health professionals are all too familiar with “the thousand-yard stare.” This is the person who seems to be not so much looking at you as through you. He may be unresponsive or inappropriately responsive in other ways.
What this should tell you is that in this moment he is in an alternate reality of his own, a place where you are probably not welcome. When you see this, start “creating distance” unless you in fact are a law enforcement officer, health professional, or someone else who has a responsibility for containing and restraining this person’s actions.
The opposite of the thousand-yard stare is the “target stare.” This is the guy who narrows his eyes and glares directly at you. The narrowing of the eyelids does for our vision what shutting down the f/stop on your camera does for the lens: it enhances depth perception.
It tells you that you have become a very intense focus of his attention. If the circumstances indicate that this individual is at all hostile, the target stare is not a good sign. If you’re not a cop, psyche nurse, etc., Mother Nature is telling you again to start creating distance between you and him.
Your own body language is huge
Your own body language and an attacker’s body language are huge! Your own body language could possibly defuse a potentially dangerous situation and paying attention to an attacker’s body language can prepare you for the unexpected.
The secret is to be aware of the people around you, if someone is approaching you appearing aggressive or suspiciously looking then the alarm bells should be sounding loud and clear, an attack could be coming, and you need to be ready!
It can happen where a potential attacker is all about looking tough and really doesn’t intend taking it any further, this is where your own body language can swing things one way or the other.
It`s possible that by staying calm the situation may fizzle out before anything bad happens, but on the other hand if you immediately act aggressively then things could escalate pretty quickly. Always be prepared for an attack but don’t be the one that takes it to a physical level.
There is nothing cowardly about avoiding a fight if at all possible, actually it makes sense to avoid unnecessary conflict. After all, you cannot get hurt or injured from a fight that never happened, but many times people’s egos will get in the way of this and they’ll see avoiding a fight as a sign of weakness.
Because of this they’ll fight when they don’t have to and possibly get injured. It`s just not worth it, sometimes you have to fight, but make sure it’s only as a last resort.
Act confident and focused
Just as you can sense people’s feelings, others can sense yours as well. Predators look for people who are meek, mild, weak, unfocused, and distracted.
Criminals are looking for easy pickings. They’re looking for someone who they can take by surprise and will likely not resist. Instead, present yourself in an assertive manner.
Taking Charge of Your Safety
People are being victimized or are being targeted to be victims each and every day.
To avoid becoming a victim, you need to take charge of your own safety. There are no guarantees, but actively tuning your thoughts and actions toward crime prevention and self-defense can help lower chances of becoming a casualty.
There’s a saying in the martial arts world that the best form of self-defense is not putting yourself in a position where you have to defend yourself.
That being said, even with the best preventative plan, an attack could still come your way. The question is, could you be able react and defend yourself successfully?
Accept the fact an attack could happen!
Mental preparation is the first step to actually accepting the possibility of a violent attack could happen to you. As the statistics about women being raped or violated keep piling up, you need to be aware that these things happen.
You may say to yourself that this won’t happen to you, but this is just wishful thinking.
The reality is, it really can happen to you, and it can happen anywhere at any time! Denial won’t get you far into defending yourself when the need arises. So, your first step is to actually understand this could really be a possibility.
The mental preparation goes hand-in-hand with coming up with a plan. An easy start is to take some self-defense class or seminar, or at least watch some. You need to train both the body and mind.
Visualize your self-defense techniques, practice them with a friend or partner (if you don’t attend training classes). Roll in your mind different scenarios, and even discuss with a female friend on scenarios she can come up with. Collaborate and practice together.
Don’t ignore your intuition!
A final tip – don’t ignore your intuition. All creatures – animals and humans – have it, but with animals this is called instinct. We call it intuition. As we’re too much relying on our intellect, we often neglect what our intuition as a result. So, if you have a bad feeling, or feel uncomfortable for no apparent reason, be alert. The alarm bells are ringing for a reason.
Many times, your eyes, ears and nose will give clues indicating that something threatening is ahead. Another powerful indicator, widely known as a sixth sense, can also hint at danger.
Always trust your instinct when something doesn’t seem right, as it’s a warning sign of potential danger. Do not ignore this!
If you do find yourself having to defend yourself, the fight isn’t over until the threat no longer exists. Therefore, you must be 100-percent committed to the battle.
If you fight back and then pause, you give up the initial advantage you gained from using the element of surprise. Once your opponent knows you can fight, it becomes more difficult for them to get the better of you.
To survive, you must continue your barrage until it’s safe to stop striking and escape. Don’t hit once and stop to see what your strike did to the attacker.
Bottom line is this, you may only get one chance to escape and survive. Keep it going till you can get away without them chasing after you. You might not get so lucky second time around!